Do you have an inner critic that judges your every move? That tells you you aren’t good enough? That you won’t make it? That your loved ones will hurt you? That people are judging you?

If you’re anything like most people, this voice is present at many times throughout each day. Perhaps when you just wake up. Or when you’re driving to work. When you’re daydreaming. When you’re trying to go to sleep.

Some people say that this critic is what gives us our motivation. Others would give anything just to shut this whiny voice up and leave us the hell alone.

It is important for us human beings to have the capacity to observe our thoughts, words and actions. If we don’t consciously do this, then how are we to learn and grow from our life experience? We would just recreate and re-do the same things we have always done, with no opportunity to do things any differently next time.

But there is a difference between OBSERVING our behaviour and JUDGING our behaviour.

Our egos tend to justify themselves by claiming that we are only observing, not judging and that it is good for us to do so. The ego would have us believe that without its judgement, we would never be bothered improving. Who would tell us off when we are wrong? Who would prevent us from coming across as conceited or arrogant?

But if you want proof of what your mind is really doing, all you have to do is look at how you FEEL when this critic starts yapping at you like your primary school librarian did when you turned the pages of Dr. Seuss too loudly.

If you FEEL BAD when this voice starts commenting to you, it means you’re JUDGING yourself. If you were only observing, you would feel totally neutral; perhaps even grateful, as this observation gives you a chance to improve yourself, which is exciting.

If you answer this question honestly, all you then have to do is three very simple things.

1. Ask yourself how you would like to improve yourself (or how you would like to be instead of the current situation).

2. Determine ONE SMALL STEP that would take you from where you are now (and what you feel now) to where you want to be (and how you would like to feel).

3. DO THAT THING. Now. Or as soon as you can after this realisation.

Learn to recognise the difference between JUDGEMENT and OBSERVATION. By practicing observing yourself and feeling peaceful about it, it will then be second nature to be peaceful and non-judgmental towards others.

About the Author: Dale Ingram is the Business Development Manager of Revival and General Manager of Papilio System. He is trained in various Mind/Body/Spirit and subconscious reprogramming modalities such as PSYCH-K, NLP, Reiki, Light Dynamics and others. He speaks publicly and is passionate about raising awareness of the Power we have within ourselves to make Change in our lives.